HOW TO GET THE WOMEN YOU DESIRE INTO BED
A Down And Dirty Guide
To Dating And Seduction
For The Man Who's Fed Up
With Being Mr. Nice Guy. by Ross Jeffries
Published in the USA.
For more information or free catalog, contact:
Ross Jeffries
6245 Bristol Parkway, Suite 275
Culver City, CA 90230
DISCLAIMER
Neither the author nor the publisher assumes any responsibility for the use or misuse of information contained in this book. The reader is warned that the use of some or all of the techniques in this book may result in legal consequences, civil and/or criminal.
USE OF THIS BOOK IS DONE AT YOUR OWN RISK.
"He who will not take the hint, must take the consequences."
-- Glenn v. Covey 282 PA 367 (1854)
TABLE OF CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION
Part one: how to have power and confidence with women
Chapter one: the one attitude that is the key to having irresistible appeal to women and getting laid with the women of your dreams
Chapter two: how to install the super-get laid attitudes in your self so you use them automatically
Chapter three: believe it or not, how to have even more confidence with women
Chapter four: still more confidence and power with women!
Chapter five: yet more confidence and power with women
Part two: how to meet women, anytime, anywhere (in which we look at the four steps to any pick-up) getting attention, making your introduction, creating rapport, making your pitch
Chapter six: how to fake like you are warm and friendly
Chapter seven: getting her attention-the key to pick ups wherever you are
Chapter eight: how to make a woman you've just met feel like she's met the man of her dreams
Chapter nine: some great methods and great places to pick up more women than you and a friend could possibly hope to handle including the only two pick-up lines in the world that work so well that they can get you laid automatically
Chapter ten: slashing comebacks for sleazoid sluts!
Chapter eleven: how to use the personals to get hundreds and hundreds of women to date!
Chapter twelve: birdogging: how to get a girl when she's with another guy (or when you're with another girl)
Chapter thirteen: getting the date
Chapter fourteen: getting the phone number route
Chapter fifteen: making the date on the spot
Chapter sixteen: how to handle bitches who try to cancel dates
Part three: how to get the women you date into bed
Chapter seventeen: deciding your approach
Chapter eighteen: how to use hypnosis to get your date into the sack
Chapter nineteen: how to totally break a woman's resistance to sleeping with you
Chapter twenty: a final word
Appendices
Appendix one: the ultimate rules and attitudes for success with women
Appendix two: representational systems
Appendix three: inducing trance states in your date using the story telling method
Appendix four: the right way to use visualization to build irresistible confidence
Appendix five: anchoring to build confidence
Appendix six: how to swiftly detect and eliminate women who are wackos, low-lifes, crazies and scum
Introduction
UNFAIR SEDUCTIONS IN AN UNFAIR WORLD
Many people who read the rough draft of this book were upset by parts of it. Invariably, I'd hear the same complaint. "These tactics you're teaching probably work really well. We thought the parts on power and confidence and on meeting women were great. But some of the actual seduction techniques are down right dishonest and unfair. They really don't give the woman any choice. Why don't you just leave them out of the book? Then no one could possibly have any objections. "Ok. Let's get the "unfair" charge out of the way. Yes, some, and I mean SOME of the seduction tactics in this book could easily be classified as "unfair." And, truth to tell, I had some serious moral reservations about putting them in the book. However, "unfair" and "fair" are relative terms. If you and I are in a boxing match, and we are both fighting by the rules, then it is totally unfair for me to kick you in the nuts and poke you in the eyes. You are fighting by the rules, and so should I.
But, if YOU start fighting dirty, I will feel under no moral obligation whatsoever to continue to stand there like a fool and take it. I'm going to toss out all the rules and fight to win, no matter what it takes.
Unfortunately, when you deal with women, you may often find yourself in that type of situation. They expect you to play by the rules, but they feel perfectly free to do whatever THEY want. For example, lots of women are more than happy to spend your money and time, and generally lead you on, letting you think you have a reward (sexual) coming. They talk about sex on the date, touch you a lot, and ACT very seductive. Then when you make a pass, they freak out and scream about what animals men are, how we're only after one thing. Or they let you have it with that famous line "I'm just not attracted to you." Maybe you find out that she was just using you as a social "spare tire" because her boyfriend was out of town for a few weeks and she didn't want to sit at home alone and look at the four walls.
Of course, if you really want to be a "gentleman" you may not find any of this out until the third or fourth date. You don't want to behave like an animal and make a pass on the first date, do you? So you hold off awhile, and then the slap in the face hurts even more.
Now, any chick who pulls this off DESERVES to be on the receiving end of the most unfair tactics you can use. You are under no moral obligation to be her victim, and you are a fool if you permit it.
So, by all means, play fair with a woman until she shows you that she is playing unfair with you. As soon as she starts to pull shit, then either walk away completely or let her have it with everything you have in your arsenal.
And while we're on the subject of fair, is it "fair" that the good-looking and rich guys should get all the beautiful women while you and I have to settle for the dogs? Are you any less deserving of complete sexual satisfaction than some pretty boy who was blessed by genetics and Daddy's bank account? Why should you just meekly roll over, and accept a situation that SUCKS, good buddy, when you can be getting your share, and then some!
Something else to consider: When it comes to sex, women have a massive power advantage. It's relatively easy for even a fat, ugly troll to obtain sexual satisfaction. All she has to do is go to any bar or club, act even mildly flirtatious, and be willing to put out. She's sure to get laid, if not by the best looking guy, then at least by someone. It's much harder for even a decent looking guy to get satisfaction, sexually.
FOR GUYS, GETTING LAID IS A CHORE.
FOR WOMEN, GETTING LAID IS A CHOICE.
Never forget this difference in the balance of power between the sexes. The tricks and tactics you'll learn in this book will make you one of those rare guys who is on the choice side of that power equation.
While we are here I better make something else clear. I do NOT believe that sex is the be all and end all of relating to women. Nor do I believe that it is always necessary or even DESIRABLE to use the tactics outlined in this book, (whether fair or unfair) to get a woman to sleep with you. It is certainly possible that the particular woman you fancy may be smart enough and have enough good sense to want you just as you are, without any games or bullshit on her part. She may also be sane and psychologically healthy enough to express that desire naturally, without any hang-ups or guilt games. You might even find - gasp - that the friendship and intimacy you share with a lady are more important to you than sex. When you find a lady like this, cherish her as the rare treasure she is. Hang on tight, and don't let go!
Unfortunately, based on my own experience, and the experience of hundreds of men I've interviewed, most women do not fit into this category. I wish they did - the REALITY is that they do NOT! The reality is that you, as a man, are going to be sexually attracted to many, many women, very few of whom are going to naturally desire you, and who you can also respect, love and admire.
Many of these women are going to be hung-up sexually, depressed, suffer from low self-esteem, eating disorders, alcoholism, etc. Heck, I even briefly dated a woman who turned out to be bulimic, alcoholic, and was also secretly a hooker! Top that for a dating disaster story!
Now, you may decide, the heck with it. If you can't at least like and respect a lady, and if you have to resort to tactics you learned in a book, then it just isn't worth it, and you will skip dealing with such loser females altogether. I certainly can respect that choice; it's the choice I eventually made myself. But only YOU can make that choice. Even if you do, this book will still be of great value to you, because you will learn fantastic techniques for improving your confidence, meeting and picking up women anywhere, any time, and how to quickly recognize and swiftly eliminate all the nutty-losers BEFORE they get to empty your wallet, bend your brain, and kick your heart in. You'll be able to get rid of the dirt, so you can enjoy the diamonds.
A FEW MORE WORDS BEFORE WE GET ON WITH THIS BOOK
There's one big mistake that all the so called "Pick-up Chicks" books seem to make. That is, THEY DON'T TELL YOU HOW TO HAVE THE CONFIDENCE AND POWER TO ACTUALLY GO OUT AND USE ALL THEIR GREAT "SEDUCTION" SUGGESTIONS.
This is a CRITICAL mistake. Great advice does you no good at all if you can't actually go out and APPLY it. All it really does is make you feel worse, because now you know what to do but you STILL can't do it. At least when you were ignorant you had an excuse.
This book will NOT make that mistake; in fact the whole first section is dedicated to showing you how to have the confidence and power to be able to easily use and apply the tactics in the other two sections of the book. We'll also show you how to use your own creativity so you can develop your own seduction tactics that perfectly fit your unique personality and circumstances.
Not bad for one little book, huh?
A FINAL WORD
Throughout this book, I will be laying down certain ideas that you would do well to memorize and use. I suggest you get some 3 x 5 index cards to write these ideas down so you can go over them as you need to. There will also be exercises to do. It is ESSENTIAL that you DO THE EXERCISES. Just reading them will get you nowhere.
Enough chit chat. Let's go to battle men.
Chapter One
THE ONE ATTITUDE THAT IS THE KEY
TO HAVING IRRESISTIBLE APPEAL TO WOMEN
AND GETTING LAID WITH THE WOMEN OF YOUR DREAMS
Once, one of my super-scoring buddies invited me to go to a party with him. Not having much of a social life anyway, I accepted the invitation, and besides, this guy REALLY knew how to get laid. I sort of looked at myself as being one of those small sucker fish that attach themselves underneath a shark's mouth and live off the bits the shark spits out.
Anyway, we were wandering around this huge apartment complex, looking for the party. We were walking down a hallway when we passed an open door, and there was a party going on, but it was definitely NOT the party we had been invited to. This was a formal affair; everyone was very well dressed, and my buddy and I were both wearing jeans and scruffy tennis shoes.
Through the doorway I saw a stunning blonde in a low cut dress, surrounded by guys trying to hit on her. My buddy saw her too, looked at me, and went right into action. I saw him walk in the door, cut through the crowd of guys, say something to her that I couldn't hear, and hand her a card and a pen. She wrote something down, and out came my buddy, smiling ear to ear. He had gotten her phone number!
I asked him what he said, and he told me, "I just walked in there, looked at her, and said, `Excuse me. I saw you through the doorway, and unlike these gentlemen here, I don't have time for small talk. I'd like to take you out. Can I have your home phone number?'
Now, it's not always necessary to be that direct. But it is necessary to grasp and use the attitude my buddy had, the super-attitude which will get you laid more than any line, trick, good looks, fancy car or fortune. The attitude is:
I MAKE NO EXCUSES FOR MY DESIRES AS A MAN.
I MAKE NO EXCUSES FOR MYSELF.
I MOVE THROUGH THE WORLD WITHOUT APOLOGY.
Do you really want to get laid with all the women you could ever possibly want? Then STOP MAKING EXCUSES FOR YOURSELF! Don't make excuses for wanting to look at a beautiful woman. If you're caught looking, and she asks what you're doing, tell her!! Tell her you're enjoying studying just what a perfectly beautiful body she has, and to heck with her if she's too uptight to appreciate a real man who doesn't apologize for knowing what he wants!
Stop making excuses for wanting to meet a woman! Stop making excuses for wanting to ask a woman out, and most of all stop making excuses for wanting to FUCK the living shit out of a woman you want! This kind of direct, powerful, go-for-it-attitude is an incredible turn on for women that can't be beaten!
Listen! It isn't even the words you use that convey this attitude! It's your tone of voice, your facial expressions, your posture, the speed at which you speak, everything non-verbal about you will show this attitude far more than words.
This doesn't mean you have to be arrogant, or lack a sense of humor. You can be warm and friendly at the same time you are being direct and powerful. The key is finding the balance. Once you do you will not be able to keep women away from you.
Now, it's easy to talk and tell you that you should have this attitude, but that won't help you to actually get it. That's why the next couple of chapters are so important. They will show you how to install this attitude in yourself so that you automatically find yourself living by it in your approach to women. You won't even have to try or to "think about it." It will just happen.
Here's the other attitude/belief you'll want to master if you really want to be a success at scoring with women like a madman.
I DON'T GET RATTLED BY SETBACKS
BECAUSE I LEARN FROM MY MISTAKES.
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