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Ross Jeffries'

Get Laid/PersuasionNEWSLETTER!!!!

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6245 Bristol Parkway, Suite 275

January/Feb/March

Culver, City CA 90230

2001

(310)822-5771 email: sandworm@mediaone.net

Advanced Techniques To Combat The Female Interruption

Mechanism!

Dear Friend And Seduction/Persuasion Student,

One of the most common events that crop up when students first get going with

Speed Seduction® is something I once labeled F.I.M . or Female Interruption

Mechanism .

We'll all of us, as men, experienced the various manifestations of this nasty little

mind-virus from time to time.

Has a scenario like this one ever happened to you, and left you scratching your

ass and pounding your head against the wall, trying to figure out what happened ?

Scenario: You're at a party or a bar . You meet a very hot looking woman, who

seems open, even eager to get to know you. You're running patterns on her, and she's

feeling that "incredible connection". By the end of the evening (or even a few short hours

of talking) the two of you are going at it , making out like crazed teenagers , playing

tonsil-hockey and dry-humping like you've just discovered friction. She eagerly gives,

even volunteers her number to you , asking when you will call her.

Your blue-balls barely allow you to squeak out the answer , "Really soon….I

promise."

Seems like a good thing, right?

I think you may know where I'm going with all this.

You wait a day or two, and when you call her either:

1. You can't get a hold of her . You leave a message or messages and she

NEVER calls you back.

2. You do get a hold of her, but she tells you, "I'm just walking out the

door " or "I'm on the other line" and she asks if she can "call you back". Of

course, you NEVER hear from her.

3 You do get a hold of her, you make a plan to see each other again, but, at

the last minute, she calls and cancels with a lame excuse l ike, "I'm tired"

or "I've got to take my friend to the airport" or whatever latest b.s. excuse

she's pulled from the U.F.E.A ( Universal Female Excuse Archive ).

Beat me with a stick and tell me it don't ever happen.

Now, many students have written to me expressing concern about this kind of

thing . Now that they are finally off the bench and in the field, they are finding these

kinds of problems cropping up and what is most confusing is….

…….. These Are Some Of The Very Same Responses They Got From Women

Back When They Were NOT Attractive And Couldn't Get Anywhere With The Ladies!

Women do cancel on, flake, evade and avoid men they plain just don't like. So

now that you are getting all these great responses, what the heck is going on?

Understanding "The Black Box"…What's Going On In Her Head?

It's an interesting aspect of human progress and technology that as you begin to

get better at something, success will sometimes seem further away than before .

Why is this? Because you now find yourself encountering situations you

couldn't previously even get near to. So now, there are more unfamiliar things to cope

with, handle and get good at.

If, prior to Speed Seduction, you couldn't get laid in a woman's prison with a

fistful of pardons , now you will find yourself meeting and attracting a lot more women

and running into previously un-encountered situations. And, as I said, the confusing,

even fear-inducing part is these are some of the same responses women generate when

they are just plain NOT interested in a guy!

With all this apparently confusing shit in mind, let's look at what the causes and

solutions are to the problems we've been discussing.

1. Many women have some serious "ruins" on the subject of men. They are so

fucked-up with so much baggage and fear, they talk themselves out of things.

In this kind of circumstance or situation, what happens is that she has a great initial

encounter with you. She really does enjoy it, at the time , and she's so caught up in the

good feelings, that all the normal bad memories/bad feeling loops are shut off .

But just as soon as she's out of your sight, all the old "garbage" kicks in . And

anything can trigger it. She goes home, leafs through her scrap-book, and sees that pic

of her ex-boyfriend, the smack-shooting, drug-dealing, Republican biker who beat her

silly and kicked her dog out the window.

Or perhaps it could something less severe; maybe it is just a recent break-up. The bottom

line is, you just don't know.

2. Many women have existing relationships that don't make them happy and they

ARE open or at least curious about other things out there. As you get better at attracting,

your net that you cast effectively widens, and so you'll get some confused fish . The

same behaviors will manifest(canceling at the last minute, flaking, calls not being

returned) Again, the best thing is to stay calm and point out they are missing out.

The issue is: did you get good, strong, trance responses, doggie-dinnerbowl looks, etc.

on the initial meeting or was she simply completely unresponsive and unimpressed?

3. Many women have lives of great financial and other turmoil a nd once a year we

have the thrice-damned "HOLIDAYS" that fuck up everyone's ability to make plans!

Scenario/Response

If she doesn't show or flakes/cancels , (or just plain doesn't return my calls) here is the

message I leave on her voice-mail or machine. And I wish to emphasize I leave this

message matter of factly and in a totally calm fashion . No anger, no neediness, just as

if I was telling her that her shoe is untied. Staying calm is a huge advantage, indeed, a

necessity when dealing with the opposite sex:

"Hey, it's Ross..it's 3pm and you were supposed to meet me at the Starbucks at

2pm and I have to say I'm quite puzzled. You didn't STRIKE me )as the kind of

person who would deliberately interrupt her own opportunities .....especially when

the first tastes felt so good...so I'm just wondering what happened in your

environment to force you to keep missing out. My number is: XXXXXXXX)

Now, let's take a long, careful look at this message and why it works.

First of all, I am avoiding the frame of being a supplicant or beggar . I'm not making it

about me wanting something SHE has and now I'm all disappointed, angry, confused and

upset that I am missing out on the gift SHE has to give.

Everything in this message sets up another frame . And that is the frame that….

… She Is The One Who Is Missing Out And Losing By Not Keeping Her

Commitment/Appointment With Me!

As I have emphasized over and over again in the fantastic LA 99 Frame Control

Videos ( which goes into all this in painstaking detail!) setting the right frame for you

communication and interaction with women is crucial! Consider a frame to be like a

mental train-track that sets the direction of all of the thoughts and responses that

will take place.

If you start going down the track that she is the one with the great gift YOU must

pursue, guess who has the control and power , no matter what patterns you cleverly

attempt to run?

No, you want to set the frame that YOU are the opportunity and if she doesn't act

rightly, she will be the one to lose out!

(Frame-control and setting is very tough, because we as men have been so conditioned

to be the supplicants, pursuers and beggars when it comes to women. And if you have a

life of previously fucking things up with women , these little glitches can send you

spinning into confusion and fear that you are never going to get mastery of this

important area of life. So, stay calm and pay attention!)

Now, let's look at the message piece by piece:

1. "It's Ross; it's 3pm and you were supposed to meet me at the Starbucks at 2pm"- Ok,

this is simply reminding them of the commitment that was made.

2. "I have to say I'm puzzled. You didn't strike me as the kind of person "- Ok, here I

put the emphasis on "strike me". Why? Because it implies something else that is

NOT stated, "I guess, after all, maybe you ARE that kind of person." In other

words, I'm saying, "Hey..maybe you're a real loser, can you prove to me you are

not"?

3. "as the kind of person who would deliberately interrupt her own opportunities"- Ok,

notice the language "the kind of person". Here I'm not just challenging her bad

behavior, but implying it is about her as a person , which makes it much worse for

her as a consequence. And notice I am saying she is "interrupting" her own

"opportunities".

"Opportunities" is very vague, so she has to do an internal search to find out how it

uniquely fits for her. Also,"opportunities" is an emotionally loaded word that is

charged with meaning in our culture; this is the land of "opportunities", "don't let

your opportunities pass you by" etc. Just ask anyone the difference between

"options" and "opportunities" and listen to what they say! So, it IMPLIES she is

losing out, big time, WITHOUT ACTUALLY SAYING IT and by tying it in to who

she is as a person, is implying that if she keeps acting this way, in the future she will

CONTINUE TO MISS OUT!

4. "I'm wondering what happened in your environment to force you to keep missing

out"…. By switching gears and making it about something in her environment, we

are now giving her an "out"; a way to say, "Whew….if I act now, I can blame it on

something other than me and STILL get to be with him and not BE A LOSER who

misses out in life!". By giving her this "out" she gets to avoid being defensive or

sticking with labeling herself as a loser; she can now come back at us fully charged

and ready to go for it with us.

In a nutshell, what we are doing here is resetting the frame by being vague, using

implication, pointing out loss and challenging her self-image . We've in no way been

nasty or rude, so we've left the door wide open . Consider:

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If she really couldn't make it , due to some nasty and unplanned emergency or

something else beyond her control, we aren't being mean or nasty and so we keep our

option open to see and enjoy her all the while putting the responsibility on her to

prove herself to us .

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If she backed away or cancelled because she is already with a guy or has talked

herself out of it due to pain of a previous relationship or because we made her

feel so good, she now has safety and control issues , we've subtly challenged her self

image and pointed out to her that she could very well be losing and missing out!

It bears repeating: notice too that at NO time are we getting angry, accusing,

blaming, or acting desperate , needy or even half-way or mildly rude. Just calmly,

casually, implying things and giving her an opportunity to step into something

wonderful she know on some level she wants, desires and needs to enjoy!

Now, there are variations on this basic message; sometimes you will get through to them

personally and deliver it directly rather than through a machine. But the basic principles

of staying calm, using implication and vagueness, challenging her self-image and

perceptions of herself(the kind of person who lets opportunities get

away from her) and setting the frame that you are the prize to be offered and won ;

these are what truly counts no matter what the variations!

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