RSD Mindset
· You can’t be jealous, insecure, needy or afraid that she will leave.
· Girls are attracted primarily to your personality
· Have the best life that you can, live life to the fullest
· Don’t be afraid to look at a woman if she’s attractive
· All rejection or failure is feedback
· The world is your pick up lab
· Don’t take anything personally
· Focus improving on your social skills
· Be comfortable with being nervous
· It’s about having a good time with her, having fun and giving her the opportunity to see what you’re about
· Never have an excuse to not approach, because deep down there are no excuses
· Put yourself out there
· The one who has the stronger belief in themselves will effect the other person
· Don’t show any reaction to a shit test
· When its on and your in the zone, social situations just open up so easily
Your Goal: When you interact with anyone, keep eye contact with them.
Subconscious thinking: Whatever it’s no big deal I am fine.
Female Psychology
· Women have been socially conditioned to act like she doesn’t like sex, so take the weight off her shoulder by giving her an excuse to come back to your place
· Women are always living in the emotion of the moment, lead her emotions, change her mood and not her mind
· Don’t always be thinking what she is thinking, just be having fun, because you can change her emotional state
· Women enjoy sex as much, if not even more then men do
· Women are always looking for that cool guy to come along
· Women like to go to clubs because it gives them a lot more value and more self esteem, it is a source of validation for her
· Always pump your own state before going to a club or a social venue, because if you’re in a downer state and a woman is in a high energy state your going to come off as low value
· Recognize that some girls are screwed up and getting into a relationship with them could make things even worse for you
Buying Temperature
Women have two conflicting forces, logic and emotion
Logic is a woman’s social conditioning, there logic is always saying:
“Don’t have sex with guys” “Don’t appear to be a slut” “Protect your reputation” “Don’t be judged” “Be selective”
Emotions on the other hand are very different because her emotions are telling her to have sex and that its part of her primal drive.
Logic and Emotion cancel each other out, emotions are stronger thus when emotions take over it cancels out her logic.
When you’re a guy who is cool, she will lose all logic that is suppressing her to have sex, and a more sexual side will be seen from her.
As soon as a girl disagrees… for example, you ask her to go home with you and she says no, then immediately cut off of that thread and then go into another joke, spike her emotional state (Buying temperature) and then when you’ve finished that, ask again and you will get a different response, also make sure when she disagrees with your decision act un reactive and go straight into another thread, because a no = not yet and that means you need to spike her emotional state more.
Congruence Tests
Sometimes people will try to force you into a submissive role that isn’t really who you are for example:
When a guy says, “Show me how cool you are!”
When a girl says, “buy me a drink.”
When someone asks you to do something, but you know they wouldn’t do it for you
When a girl says, “is that a pick up line?” “your such a jerk!” “are you a player?”
When this happens a lot of guys will try and answer these logically, but you have to have a line were your ignore it or make fun of it or even responding unaffected.
1. One way to respond is to not show any emotional reaction to it, for example you are getting AMOGED and he is trying to make you show him why you are cool, so by doing what he wants like “yeah sure” whilst showing no emotion or reaction to it, tools him and that is because he is expecting you to go submissive in your eye contact, your tonality and when you show no emotion to it he just looks like an idiot or when a girl says “your such a jerk” show no emotion, nod and go “uh huh”
2. The even best way is to not answer at all like it is out of your realm of hearing, it conveys that it makes so much little sense to you that you don’t even answer it, just ignore it and talk about something else.
3. Another good way is to answer a stupid question, by answering the question with a question you wished to be asked. You do not have to give a logical answer to everything that you are asked.
4. Another one, answer them in the way they want but make them wait for it, “buy me a drink” “in a bit”
5. The funniest one is to answer in the way they want but do something funny that is slightly different, “come over here” or “walk towards me” your just like “yeah sure” and then mimic Michael Jackson in a goofy way or something to that extent.
6. To jokingly call them out for trying to step up, a girl says “you’re a jerk” you can say “hey hey hey wow stepping up!”
7. To joke that what they said is playing up to earlier observations you made of them. So say you called a girl a trouble maker as a joke, and she says something really weird like “you’re a jerk etc” and you can go “wow you are a trouble maker” that is conveying they are playing into the reality that you set.
8. To joke that there too strong for you to handle and that they win. If someone throws a weird response at you, some kind of test, just go “wow you got me, you win, your too powerful, just too powerful to deal with right now”
9. To answer with something equally random and absurd as the role there trying to put you in. If they come up with some weird stupid question, come up with an equally weird answer, you don’t have to give that the time of day in any way, shape or form.
10. To answer cryptically and make them guess what you mean. For example “you’re a jerk” answer with “yeah im straight up janny choo man.” And there like what? That’s because your putting them into your frame because your answering cryptically and there trying to figure out what your saying and they enter your reality.
11. To answer their question or do what they ask, but make them do something first. Say a girl comes up to you and says “Do you have a cigarette?” you say “Sure, make your best animal noise.” And they make the animal noise and you go “that is awesome, here you earned it”
12. To jokingly imitate them. Whatever they said, just say it back, for example “you’re a jerk” you copy them in a girly voice.
13. To give them a weird look. If a girl says something weird to you, just give them a weird look.
14. To ignore them entirely. When a guy is being a dick or he is trying to put you in a role, just completely ignore him, just keep talking to your friend as if you cant hear him.
15. To playfully misinterpret what they said, jokingly suggesting that:
They tried to compliment you
They tried to impress you
They tried to come on to you
They were kidding and trying to entertain or help you
They said something funny and weird that they didn’t mean to say
They mumbled and you couldn’t hear them (making them repeat themselves)
People will throw these congruence tests at you to see what your made of, when women throw theses it’s a good sign, she is playing with you and testing you, play with her back, because the truth is a woman isn’t going to say that to some dorky guy, it’s a test to see what you are about. The thing to remember is, that to not go to far with this, most guys think it’s ALL a test, when she has a legitimate issue, discuss it with her, it is only a test if she is trying to put you into a submissive role.
Don’t let her test enter you reality, be passive.
Elements of a good pickup
Don’t get stuck inside your head memorizing a structure
Go with the flow
Any solid pickup has the following elements:
Open:
· Tap her on the shoulder is a consistent way of getting her attention if she’s not facing you.
· No way out rule, keep talking till they open up, you are not seeking a reaction from them all you are doing it shooting the shit.
· Structure opportunities to help them talk and input there opinions.
· Go in the interaction with a slighter higher energy level then the girls or if you go in with low energy then at least be congruent with that.
· When there laughing you can escalate, don’t turn into an entertainer, it has to be a part of your personality.
· Lead from open to close, don’t ask for permission lead the whole way.
· Get her friends engaged on the conversation.
· To find out there status with each other, just incase your hitting on someone’s girlfriend, ask “How do you guys know each other?”
· When a girl says “I have got to find my friends” Hold your arm out and say “Let’s find them.”
Hook:
· Stand out from the other guys as quickly as possible.
· You hook by offering value, that gives them a good experience to there night.
· Cold reading
· Teaching them something
· Future adventure projections aka role playing
· Conspiracies
· Busting them on there mannerisms
· Misinterpretation
· Push/pull
· Elastic band effect, which is creating challenges, “can you dance? I bet you can’t dance, I bet you can’t even move on the dance floor” It instantly makes her want to qualify to you.
· Disqualification
· Pimp talk
· Silly games
· Imitate there accent
Touch:
· Pinging is were you mutual touch, for example if you poke her playfully, she will playfully poke you back, after she touches back don’t ping her again, that can come off needy.
· Teaching something physical in nature, anything that you can teach with kino is great and works consistently but remember mostly to disengage after, not fully disengage but you can kind of push and pull which gives you escalation.
· Moving her around (Leading), they will feel protected by you, lead them physically around the dance floor or to a position, the possibility is endless but it is key to lead physically.
· Tickling, Wrestling, Hair pulling, Neck biting, all good for later on when you have a connection and she is comfortable.
· Slowing down your speaking
· Get closer
· Triangular gazing, you do this by looking down to the lips and to the left eye and then the right eye and back down to the lips.
· Back scratching
· Smelling hair
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