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Day 1 : Structured Natural Game and Initiating of Conversations

VAC Calibration System

VAC is basically a troubleshooting system to analyze your pickup. It helps you figure out where you

went wrong during your pickup. In Italy, the pasta is not the key ingredient for Spaghetti. It’s the

sauce. If pasta is the vehicle to get people to eat the sauce, then VAC is the “vehicle to get your

sauce into her mouth.”

VAC stands for:

V – Value

A – Attainability

C – Compliance

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VAC work best once you have mastered your inner game (aka your internal beliefs about yourself

and the world around you). Any pickup method you successfully learn will come down to your:

1. strong internal core belief that you are attractive

2. ability to isolate

The goal of the workshop will be to provide:

- a template for proper pickup execution (the Action side of the triangle)

- enough tools to analyze what went wrong during the pickup (the Self Talk side of the triangle).

Hopefully, by improving your Execution / Action and Self Talk, your internal beliefs will also become

stronger. The sides of the triangle are all co-dependent. After the workshop, you may choose to

focus first on your core beliefs (inner game), which in turn will allow you to execute techniques a lot

faster, and with greater ease. http://www.the-approach.net/n-lesson-1-free-pdf.php .

All information in this document are my interpretations and notes on the content provided by theApproach

Standard™ Workshop. All concepts described are copyrighted 2006 theApproach. This document is

intended for personal use only and should not be distributed without consent from its author(s). The

notes presented below are only a reinforcement of what theApproach Standard workshop teaches and

should not be viewed as a replacement to attending the workshop. Original theApproach content can be

found on:

- http://www.theapproach.com/

- http://sexrevolutionblog.com/?p=102

Action

Self Talk

Beliefs

The entire VAC system is ruled by Situation Relevance (SitRel). More on it later on.

If you’ve read “The Game” by Neil Strauss, Sebastian provides a good analysis of how VAC can be

used to troubleshoot Neil and Lisa’s relationship: http://www.the-approach.net/n-lesson-3-neil-

strauss.php .

It all starts at Value

Value is all about perception and determines the impression you leave on people (it doesn’t have to

be REAL value. See http://www.the-approach.net/n-lesson-2-vac.php for full details).

Value is perceived through:

1. Presence

2. Appearance

3. Active demonstration

Basically, value is perceived by the v ibe you give out.

Your ability to attract women depends on your competence in displaying 4 types of value:

- Self Determinism : your ability to get things for yourself in life. This includes all society values of

what a men should have to get a woman (job, house, money… etc)

- Sexual Presence : your ability to be comfortable around women and get sex. This can best be

improved by modeling yourself after someone.

- Leadership : your ability to lead a group. If your leadership skills are a lot stronger than your

sexual presence, you will get a lot of phone numbers but will have difficulty getting the girls to

meet you again for Day 2.

- Specific Value : the qualities that makes you unique/different. This includes your hobbies and

passions in life.

OPTIMUM SEXUAL TENSION

to maximize meet-up potential

Self Determinism

Sexual Presence

Leadership

Specific Value

5 Has extreme means of

meeting women. Most likely

well known and has access to

private parties hosting the

women of utmost beauty.

Can get sexual levels of

compliances based on self-

determinism alone

Complete Sexual Power

Reversal. Women intuitively

sense that sex is their reward

for building his lifestyle

however they can. Women fill

in possible deficiencies in self-

determinism willingly, and

work too hard to please him.

Women initiate escalation and

sex

A natural leader. Can

influence groups of people

very easily. Understands

humor, wit, timing and

subtlety to a very high degree.

Can enter groups of people

cold, from scratch and gain

social control within a very

short time.

Famous for something

archetypal for getting women:

musician, artist, model, actor.

Worldwide reach and

popularity. He has

transcended being a man and

has become an ideal example

of his chosen archetype.

He’s gay, indifferent or harmless

100%

He’s horny, aggressive and persistent

4 Has good logistics, a short-

distance away from a high-

traffic area such as a city or

other metropolitan area.

Good access to attractive

women, and the means for

easy transportation from

meeting to isolation. Many

opportunities to meet women.

Can escalate smoothly with

new girls. Relaxed and

comfortable with attractive

women. Capable of a

controlled arousal state,

builds sexual tension through

allusions and metaphors, and

has great body language and

eye contact. Shows early

stages of Sexual Power

Reversal.

Relaxed and natural

leadership. It is in the best

interest of his group to allow

his leadership and he

expresses this very naturally.

Good sense of humor, good

ethics and very popular with

men and women as friends.

Usually the leader of his

social circle.

Functional specific value.

Actively using specific value

to gain access to women who

are attracted to that specific

value. Could be a musician,

artist, bodybuilder, bouncer,

bartender, D.J. etc… Specific

value is apparent in his

personality.

During an interaction with a woman, it is best to maintain a balance in your level of sexual tension to

maximize your potential for meeting up again. Going one extreme will jeopardize the way she

perceives you and will affect negatively her decision to meet up with you again.

High Value Attainability

Attainability is the window that allows the woman to see your value. If you kill your attainability, that

window will close and the woman will no longer see your value.

3 Has acceptable logistics for

sex. Maybe lives alone or

with some friends, but not

living in a suitable city for

meeting a lot of women,

therefore opportunities are

few and far between.

Great sex occasionally

because of sheer persistence.

Makes moves usually in a

clumsy manner. Arousal state

present, but still uncontrolled.

Talks explicitly about sex or

makes too many overt moves

to maintain good sexual

tension.

Has a good number of both

male and female friends.

Leads weaker or less

experienced males.

Leadership sometimes comes

off forced or overly dominant

because of outcome

dependence. Still believes

that leadership is meant to

primarily benefit the leader.

Developed specific value to

the point of having credible

proof of its existence. Strong

understanding of emotionally

or aesthetically interesting

specific value. Specific value

can be seen in different parts

of his life.

Being high value usually will create strong attraction in the woman towards you. However, being over

the top can hinder your sense of attainability. For example, most people have an auto-rejection

mechanism that will stop them from trying to get with someone if they think that person is not within

reach (ex: celebrities). It prevents them from spending too much energy on an unattainable cause.

This effect can also be seen when the man goes overboard with what the “Community” calls as

“actively demonstrating disinterest” through negging (aka a backhanded compliment) or C&F (aka

Cocky & Funny comments).

2 Presentable, but has limited

ability to manufacture good

logistics. Maybe he lives with

his parents and has no place

to take a woman.

Experiences difficulty in

getting to and from meeting

locations to seduction

locations.

Has had fleeting relationships

with women, primarily

because of higher levels of

self-determinism or

leadership. Unable to

escalate properly with new

women, fear of escalating,

and still has discomfort in the

presence of women. Fear still

overpowers the controlled

arousal necessary for

escalation.

Has friends, but is kept

around because he is the

jester of the group, the fall

guy. Has a group of guys to

hang out with, but is

subservient to all of them to

guys. Very little influence due

to limited humor, emotional

calibration and wit.

Fleeting interest in hobbies,

little energy put into those, or

a lot of energy put into

developing an archetype that

is not conducive to attracting

women. (i.e. emotionally or

aesthetically uninteresting) No

credible evidence of specific

value.

Too low

value,

not

worth

her time

Auto-Rejection

1 A bum or homeless person.

Gets a reaction of disgust

upon the opener. Has very

little ability to get things for

himself, and this severely

limits his ability to interact with

women. Does not have

proper attire required to fit in

at public places

Never had a girlfriend, most

likely a virgin. Very nervous

and uncomfortable around

women he is attracted to.

Fear of women. Cannot

interact with woman unless it

is under a pretense of work or

some other social construct.

Unable to make friends.

People consciously and

subconsciously avoid him b/c

of his negative energy and

lack of personality. Has

absolutely no influence over

others because he emanates

weakness and insecurity. Will

have trouble getting jobs

unless he has a very

specialized skill.

Lacks energy to put into any

activity not directly related to

immediate survival. No

unique identity or

distinguishing characteristics.

No concept of sexual

archetypes, or what types of

personalities are attractive to

women.

Your goal is to always make the woman feel that you are within reach but not always available for

her. Attainability is different from availability. Being attainable presuppose that the woman doesn’t

already have you, but she COULD get you.

Value

Attainability can be killed during:

- relationships (you did something wrong) , or

- opening (you went over the top, you did too much negging or C&F).

The most common error men do is subconsciously digging the whole deeper by trying everything in

their pickup artist’s arsenal in hope of saving themselves, but in vain (ex: you neg or C&F more to

rebuild attraction). This is called the Wile E. Coyote Effect .

There are 5 levels of base compliance . It is usually fairly easy to get to base level 5 but knowing

them will help you troubleshoot your interactions. If you can’t go higher, that means you didn’t pass

the previous level.

1. Acknowledgement

2. Stands there while you talk

3. She answers questions

4. She responds to statements

5. Active contributions (to the interaction, conversation or your lifestyle)

To correct a loss in attainability, use this 3-part sentence:

“ I didn’t mean to < insert a presupposed emotional reaction 1 >.

It’s just that I < insert a verbalization of lower value (aka VLV) 2 >

But you seemed < insert cold read 3 >”

The HVA statemen t is meant to correct the emotional distress by acknowledging it. From a

psychological perspective, you are not apologizing for your actions but you are apologizing for the

emotional effect on her.

Examples of compliance include:

- She agrees to “You got to meet my friends. My friends are going to LOVE you.”

o The reason you say “My friends are going to LOVE you” instead of “You are going to

LOVE my friends” is because you want to reassure her that it is cool to meet your friends.

You are not convincing her to meet your friends.

- She complies when:

o You tell her how to walk with you. i.e.: “You can’t walk behind me like that, come here…

walk next to me.”

o You tell her how to shake hands

o You tell her to introduce you to her friends

o You tell her to make you something that she likes. i.e.: “Oh, you like that kind of music?

Why don’t you make me a mixed CD?”

1 Make sure you use an emotional reaction that does not assume guilt. This is why you are not using

“I’m sorry.” Using “I’m sorry” will make some girls feel that they are entitled to be upset at you. As

such, use words such as:

- upset

- keep you guessing

- overwhelm

- confuse

- keep you waiting

- embarrass

- make you jealous

- Etc…

Body Language

Do not use words like:

- offend

- annoy

- bother

- anger

2 Use words that do not assume you failed to calibrate properly:

- am too playful

- get immersed with other things

- get too excited with my friends

3 Use something like:

- sociable

- fun

- outgoing

- very friendly

- cool

Body language is very important because it gives the woman a quick glimpse of your attitude based

on your positioning in relation to your environment.

The essence of body language lies in posture , which is based on your:

- skeletal system : it supports your weight

- muscular system : It allows you to move.

Generally speaking, the man should try to be at least as comfortable as or MORE comfortable than

the girl during any interaction. For example, if interacting near a wall, slowly shift to be in a position to

potentially lean against the wall (assuming it is Situational Relevant). When entering a sited set, you

can either:

- put a knee down (aka kneel down) to be comfortable and speak to them at the same level,

- shift the set so that you are sitting and they are standing

- put both hands on the table as if you are leaning on it.

The idea behind this is that you want to always put yourself in a position where you subconsciously

communicate that you are qualifying them, that they have to meet your standards. Once again,

always make sure that it is situational relevant .

Compliance

Compliance refers to the amount of effort a woman puts in, to be around you. This is based on the

Cost/Worth conception that if it costs more, it must be worth more.

When standing, your front side should encompass more space than your back (larger front, smaller

back). Shoulders (upper body) should be open while lower body (hips… etc) should be relaxed. In

ballroom dancing, the concept remains similar. The shoulders and arms are open and do not move

because they create a frame for the woman to work within while the hips move in a relaxed fashion to

the music.

In the realm of pickup, the amount of compliance is the only difference between a platonic versus a

sexual relationship. In a platonic relationship, there is no compliance. The man is available “free of

charge” for the woman to use.

When sitting, you should:

- sit comfortably

- take space (but not sprawl out)

- have the “crotch display” (it’s a subconscious display of your manliness)

As such, compliance also determines how credible your value is. For example, when a girl likes you

too much for no apparent reason (you didn’t put in any effort to deserve her affection), you feel

awkward. You doubt the genuineness of her interest in you. It’s fishy.

Eye contact should be constant but not intimidating. Note that when talking, you can have your eyes

wander. It is natural and almost expected to do so. It is very unnatural to have the speaker stare at

the person he’s talking to. On the other hand, the person listening should always look at the speaker.

Situational Relevance – The Basis of Conversation

Situational Relevance (or SitRel) is the idea that environment dictates action . Basically, what you do

or say needs to makes sense/be within norms considering the given situation you are in. If you are

not SitRel, people will typically find you socially awkward. See: http://www.the-approach.net/n-

l esson-4-SitRel.php .

Men typically need to have more facial expression . Having a poker face is bad for pickup. Please be

aware that when aroused:

- women naturally get more animated

- men typically get more stoic so please remove the mask!

In the “Community,” opinion openers are widely advocated as a good excuse for newbies to go up

and talk to a woman. However, using an opinion opener would not be SitRel if you saw a woman

walking on the other side of the street.

The Retarded Look stems from the idea that the person who spends the least amount of energy is

usually the one with higher value/higher status. It can be used against many objections a woman

may throw at you such as:

- I don’t date xxx (short/asian/black/fat/etc…) guys

- Why are you talking to me?

- I don’t talk to guys who don’t buy me a drink.

Against those types of objections, it is more effective to give the Retarded Look (aka “I can’t believe

that!”) look than actually go in details and voicing how disappointed, or how stupid something was.

Good examples of retarded looks can be seen on the Daily Show with Jon Stewart, or Robert De Niro

in Meet the Parents, or Jay Leno when he talks about idiotic press articles.

Take a moment to imagine it for a bit: the woman sees you crossing the street. You run after her,

just to talk to her… and the first thing you say is: “Hi, I need a female opinion on something.” That

would feel very uncalibrated for the woman. It would have been better for you to use a direct opener

such as: “Hi, I saw you walking there, and I just HAD to come tell you… you look GORGEOUS.”

SitRel is based on 3 things:

- Energy level

o Energy level should be similar or slightly lower than the set you are entering

- Comprehension level

o Comprehension level is defined as the person’s ability to understand what you are saying

o Comprehension level (low comprehension vs high comprehension) should be matched

because the comp. level is usually affected by:

Substance (aka being drunk)

Fatigue level (aka being tired)

An effective Retarded Look combines:

- holding still (only the face changes)

- duration (it’s a form of social pressure)

- effect (getting the expression right – emotion has to be conveyed)

- Context

o Topics, conversational techniques, games, etc…

Generally speaking, you only want to punish bad behavior (which is where the Retarded Look comes

in). Good behavior should never be punished, except in small amounts. In the “Community,” many

guys will make the mistake of using negs or C&F to inadvertently punish good behavior. If she

responds to your questions or statements, it is a form of compliance. It is typically wrong to respond

by making fun of her replies. Doing so can destroy your attainability.

Five Highly Effective Types of Openers

Openers are not meant to be complicated. They are at best a simple mean for you to socialize.

There are 5 types of openers:

Tonality should be legato (aka smooth) instead of staccato.

Music is the space between the notes. Learn to use pauses effectively in your daily speech while

keeping your voice smooth. This will also help you slow down your speech for clearer

comprehension.

Body

Language

Verbal

Interest

Examples

Hi, I saw you <insert what she’s doing>, and I HAD to

come and tell you: you look <insert quality>! (this is

best used during day game on a lone wolf)

Genuine Interest

Direct

Typically, men want to use a lower, deeper tonality when speaking with a woman. Woman usually

will respond better to the resonance of a deeper voice because it is more sensual. To find the proper

tone of voice, you may use 2 different techniques:

Implicit Direct

Direct

Indirect

(While facing the girl) Hey, did you see <insert

environmental stimulus (the car crash outside)>?

Mental

Physical

Situational Indirect

Indirect

(While next to her but both facing out) Hey, did you

see <insert environmental stimulus (the car crash

outside)>?

BJ technique

Vocal Mask (Opera Singer technique)

Imagine you are receiving a blowjob. Think of

the voice you use when giving her instructions

(Ahhh, yes baby, right there… a little here)

This technique consists of speaking through the

diaphragm. Say “AAAAAAAAAHHHHHH” out

loud while hitting your chest with your fingers.

Slowly lower your voice until you can hear it

resonate after you hit your chest.

True Indirect

“Community” routines

Hey, can I get your opinion on something? (this is

basically using any form of story as an excuse to talk

to the girl)

Nonverbal / Playful

N/A

Any form of kino games to open such as tapping on

the shoulders to get someone’s attention, hip-to-hip

hitting at the club… etc.

Please remember that you may have to adjust your tone half an octave up if you are in a loud

environment such as clubs or bars where the bass is turned up. If you do not adjust your tone up,

your voice will be washed out by the noise level.

Focus

Day 2 : Kinesthetic and Conversational Techniques

Remember to NOT get locked in your head when you go out. The purpose of going out is to

proactively socialize . If you try to think ahead of what you are going to say all the time, you will get

vertigo (aka mental freezing). So instead, please focus on the moment on what is being said during

the conversation.

Wingman Rules

Most of the wingman rules can be found online. A set should be opened by one person at a time.

The wingman should come in afterwards so that it looks more natural and less threatening when you

come in. A 2-set is the most difficult to pull. Generally speaking, you can not pull a same night lay

from a 2-set if you do not have a wingman.

Proactively socializing includes:

- charging the venue: you can use any group dynamics techniques such as:

o Manager’s game (aka fractionation): go around and ask if everyone is having fun, or if

everything is good. Chit chat for a couple minutes max. Next time you come around,

they will feel that they know you, so it’s easier to stay in for conversations.

o Backward merge : Bring a group of people to meet the previous group you met.

o Forward merge : Bring your current group of people to meet new people you have never

met.

- making connections

- seeing if people meet your standards (as in: are they cool to hang out with? Are they interesting?

This is not referring to the qualification process of a girl during pickup)

- using VAC to calibrate.

Women are emotional creatures by nature and they know it. As such, there’s an unspoken rule

between them to protect each other and prevent each other from going home with a stranger when

their judgment is being affected by the high from the music or the alcohol.

Target

The relationship between Value, Attainability and

Compliance for different types of people

You

Wingman

“LJBF” (Let’s Just Be Friends)

The key to a good “wingmanship” is:

- good communications

o agree beforehand on how the wingman will know who is your target

o agree beforehand on how to signal to close or venue change

o agree beforehand on how to telegraph that you need the wingman to come in

If unsure, the wingman can come in and ask something like: hey, have you seen

Michelle? Then you can respond with either:

I think she’s over there (to tell him to go away)

No I haven’t seen her but let me introduce you to my new friends (to tell

him to stay)

- quality of the wingman

o the wingman should be on the same level as you or better than you to occupy the other

people in the set

“Player”

If the set includes lots of people, the wingman should position himself to occupy the most amount of

people.

“AFC” (Average Frustrated Chump)

Target

Wingman

You

Kinesthetic Technique

If people are not rece e to you, putting them physically out of balance can help you insert a new

ptiv

state.

Example: Making h

There are 4 types of kino:

- Playful

o Initiators (tap, behind knee push when she’s standing up)

o Handshakes

o Dancing, moving her

o Thumb wars and other games

o Spanking

- Protective

er fall a

little bit, making her spin… etc will blank her mind e

tever you say afterwards.

nough for you to

cre te a new state

with wha

The “ Gunslinger Walk ” describes a type of walk that conveys sexual dominance. It allows you to walk

traight line whil eople move out of your way. You want to stand tall

ot swing out too far when walking. Your arms will stand relaxed by your side

istols

e having other p

and have your arms n

like a cowboy who’s ready to draw out his p

. To compensate for the lack of balance, your torso

will start to slightly sway righ

t and left.

o Holding hands

o Escorting

o Protecting from

- Incidental (

ual ino)

o Cheek to cheek

o Arm to arm

o Leg to leg

o Resting her h

- Sexual

o Rubbing

o Stroking

o Sexual zones

o Escalation

Arm around shoulder

traffic

is used to maximize sexual tension. It is the only type of kino you need to escalate to

The “Gunslinger Walk” uses body angling that is based on:

- cro

o at a closer range: raise your hand as to move them out of your way

- lateral gestures

ss-body gestures

sex k

o at a distance: open your hand in the direction you want them to move.

ead

Conversational Management

ven during conversations, your body l

anguage can be more important that what you say.

tion

Verbalization vs. Demonstra

Higher Value)

( rbalization of Higher Value = bragging): this will hurt your game

(D monstration of Lower Value)

DLV e

VLV (Verbalization of Lower Value = speaks of your vulnerabilities)

Using DHV with VLV can be very

werful and may greatly boost

r value. Ex: “Hi, I’m kind of

shy but decided to come talk to

you ” (deliver with a very confident

body language)

you

Incidental

Sexual

Protective

Playful

The most common form of combining a DHV with a VLV is when you disqualify yourself. When

squalifier

talking about something you are really passionate/good about, it’s a good idea to insert a di

Example: “After I took this cookin

what you are talking about by the way y

make yourself humble. This in turn will greatly boost your attractiveness to the woman.

g class, I decided to play with all these ingredients to make <xxx>...

nd well I’m not really good at it, but it turned out really well!” (She will know that you actually know

ou describe things)

Time

I ntroducing new threads of conversatio in a Situationally Relevant wa

you wan

hat she just said then move the conversation to wherever you want. In layman’s term, the formula

introduce a new thread and/or keep the conversation going is: “Yes, and… “ (acknowledge or

y comes from identifying all the

t to relate/acknowledge

topics a woman my throw at you when she speaks. Once identified,

relate, then move on).

s Escalation Ladder describes the general kino order to use so that a person do

t by your touching. The order does not have to be followed to the lett

s before the one you want to do will prevent the woman’s red flags to pop up.

Isolation

The Morri

es not feel

weirded ou

er, but doing the 1 or

2 step

“I went dancing last night at a club , got really drunk , met Lorenzo Lamas but got sick and

threw up .”

1. Eye to body

2. Eye to eye

4. Hand

5. Hand to arm

6. Hand to

. Hand to back

Most guys are too slow, or are afraid of initiating kino from

step 1-6 out of respect for a woman’s personal space.

However you want to consistently start kino-ing when you

meet a woman so that she gets used to your touch.

All the boxed words can be used to relate and introduce a new topic. Example:

“I remember the last time I went dancing…”

“While we are on the topic of dancing, I actually want to take ballroom dancing classes.”

“Every time I go to a club… “

Etc…

shoulder

8. Mouth to mouth

9. Hand to body (groping, rubbing… etc)

10. Mouth to breast / body

Because you can identify topics does not mean you need to always change topic. To keep the

conversation flowing, yo

“W

“Oh no, how drunk were you?”

Most men rush or go too fast in this area. Learn to slow

down and show your comfort with sexual kino.

u may choose to go deeper/wider on the subject at hand. Example:

hat kind of club did you go to?”

1. Mouth to genitals / genital to genital

on he street in a s

DHV (Demonstration of

VHV Ve

Voice to voice

to hand

Topics are not the only way you can relate to a woman. You can also relate to her emotions (which is

pen, relate, reward,

rontloading Emotion

ts.com/community/podcasts

conversational technique where you tell the story by conveying all

the emotions upfront, and then you follow with the details or facts. Typically, the woman will get

you are

her laugh at

Once you get good at introduc

complian

ing new topics, you want to start learning adding value, attainability or

ce statements in your stories.

v : refer to the value chart on page 3.

captivated by the emotions you are describing. Her curiosity is spiked as she’s not sure what

talking about until you start telling the facts. This buildup of emotions will generally make

e end.

Ex: “I actually threw a party last time at my house. We had xxx guests” (this shows self-

determinism and leadership)

+a : Make your stories show that yo

section.

+c : Adding compliance statements and questions mean you add screening / qualification, interaction

and audience participation within your stories

Ex: “So I was traveling to New York and… wait… you’ve been to New

u are within reach. Refer to attainability techniques in the later

Interactivity

Interactivity increases compliance. Interactivity also allows you to get your audience get engaged in

York, right?” <let her

your story. Refer to the example given in the “Conversational Management” techniques when you

add +c to your stories.

answer> “Ok… so as I was saying, I met up my friend at…”

Screening / Qualification questions :

- I like <x>, are you <x>?

Attaina

bility Techniques

I like <x>, what’s the most <x> thing you have done?

I like <x>, but are you <y>?

- You seem <x>, is that true?

Are you m

“Magician’s Choice” technique… when no matter what she answers, she answers right into what

you want/prefer)

Using attainabilit

- Respect as a

y techniques help you show that you are within reach

friend:

o Talk about things you could do as friends

ore of an <x> person or <y> person? (This last example can be used to apply the

o Talk about other girls

o “My friends would LOVE you”

o Talking abo

Adding levels of Compliance to Conversations

- Provide evidence

Instead of SOI (Statement of Intent), you tell her

Ex: I like the passion you display when…

re Plans

ut the prospect of her being part of your group of friends and vice versa

A girl like me can get a guy like him

Punishment for breaking social rules

assumptions and scree

Interactivity

Compliance through pre-

ning

why you like her.

- Future Pacing / Futu

o Making future plans with a woman will imp

nly after sexual relationship ha

Open: blah blah blah

rove your attainability in a relationship

s been established. This technique

ting/eliminating a b involves the same process as introducing a new one. You want to

acknowledge the emotion behind the bad thread and introduce a new one.

o This should be done o

is not as effective if done prior

rac ing without an Agenda

- Let her talk without reacting

o You listen to the woman’s con

e her feel that sh

to intimacy.

Cut

ad thread

- Inte t

To get a person to commit

to the conversation, you may also use the 10 sec p

ause

(aka Juggler’s

trying to mak

- The #1 killer of attainability is her seeing that she’s not special/unique to yo

o For am

versations and only interrupt her with few “uh uh.” You are

e can confide in you.

Vaccum). This is a form of

social pressure. People of high status always

n the question at hand.

compliments as rewards : Disqualify the general, qualif

d also want to qualify/reward her for a real effort to open up (compli

who are blonde/short/tall/older/y

wait for an answer when

they are really interested i

ex ple: she’s seeing you take another girl’s n

tlines (aka you are flirting with

umber.

o Note that jealousy plo

demand) sacrifice some attainability to boost your value. Please calibrate properly. R

thi : http://sexrevolutionblog.com/?p=144 .

other girls to show her that you are in

ead

y the specific . You want

to make it genuine, an ance).

Example: “Usually I’m not attracted to girls ounger/whatever general

trait, but I like you because you’re (specific trait).” Refer to: http://sexrevolutionblog.com//?p=68

omprehension Levels

Role Playing

yi has the ability to make a woman go into the imagin

programming she might have.

ary to let go of any societal

High Comp. includes ideas, realizations, stories that involve lots of emotions and logic… etc.

Low Comp. includes shorter threads, games, and

playful kino types of interactions… etc.

Some forms

- Vac

- Tea

- Old Lovers Reunited or Husband / Wife

- Dad / Daughter

of role playing include:

ation Role

cher / Student

Depending on your environment, you need to adjust your game to the proper comprehension level:

- Low Comp is more adequate for loud environment such as clubs and bars.

- High Comp is more adequate for quiet, calm environment as found during day game.

Day 3 : Image/Fashion/Style, Sexual Power Reversal and Dating/Relationships

Sexual Power Reversal

Basics of Fashion

Sexual Power Reversal is a representation of the highest level of game in a pickup

d from a mindset of abundance (when w

artist’s career.

omen and sex

dpoint. I recommend reading http://www.the-

come easily) and from a very hig

approach.net/compliance_value.php for a comprehensive explanation of this concept.

Women will typically cue in very quickly on how

put-together” you are.

well you present yourself. They will look for how “well

Men focus on function & comfort and like to f

Women look for what is missing in the whole

launt one expensive item in their wardrobe.

ensemble. This is called the Handicap principle

From a traditional societal standpoint, the courtship between men and women can be de

- Man provides survival capacity to the woman (money or materialistic rewards such a

gifts, jewelry, house, car…)

n capabilities to the

scribed as:

s dinner,

man (sex-related rewards such as kiss, hold

- Woman provides replicatio

hands, make-out and ultima

The differences on how men and women look at fashion

(Each arrow represents an item of clothing)

tely sex)

The following illustrations describe how value relates to compliance in the traditional view of courtsh

(source: http://www.the-approach.net/compliance_value.php )

Men will notice the one expensive item of

clothing that is being displayed

Men

Women

Women notices the pink area… which

shows what is missing in the person’s

style/fashion

Brand suggestions :

Shoes : Adidas, Puma, Aldo… etc.

Jeans : True Religion, Rok’n Republic, Paper Denim & Cloth, Seven for All Mankind, Diesel, 5

Lucky, Chip & Pepper, Michiko Koshino, DKNY… etc.

Jewelry : SoGood rings

Hair Product : Ice Spiker or Got 2B Glued

75,

Once men get better with women, they soon realize that sex is not always at the very top of a

woman’s compliance scale. Therefore, the idea behind Sexual Power Reversal is attributing a proper

cost for the woman’s compliance and rewarding her with that. In exchange of the woman’s

contributions to the man’s lifestyle, the man rewards her with sex. This only works when the woman

perceives that the man brings so much value to her life.

Manicures are strongly suggested if you plan on using fingers to pleasure women. Eyebrow shapin

can also enhance facial attractiveness.

g /

waxing

At the highest level of Sexual Power Reversal, the woman is willing to give her energy and resources

for the man’s cause.

Testosterone – That Really Man

ly Thing

m a biological standpoint, a higher level of testosterone

during mating period. To en

- Diet with lots of protein / L-Glutamine

- Competitive / Combat / Contact Sports

- Oils (Omega Fatty Acids…)

- Supplem

- Catabolic / Anabolic State (you want to stay in an

food/resources in your body than necessary)

will make you more attractive to a woman

hance your level of testosterone, follow some of the suggestions below:

Gym / Workout (This will also improve your muscle development and posture)

Focus on whatever activities you are doing

ents (Tribulus Terrestrius)

abolic state where you have more

No soy (this increase your level of estrogen)

what Juggler’s Method advocates). Juggler’s Method can be summarized with: o

and repeat. Refer to: http://www.charismaar

Frontloading emotion refers to a

A quick note on using

Role pla ng

Sexual Power Reversal can only be achieve

h value stan

Fro

Sexual Power Reversal (SPR) is achieved by mastering 4 things:

- Vision

o What is your vision? Talk and describe it

o Evidence of vision: you can include the girl by making her participate into an activity that

helps your vision when on Day 2

Example: You want to become a chef. You make her go buy groceries with you… or pick it

up for you when she’s on her way to your place.

o Take her along the ride: Use role playing or future pacing techniques to make her see herself

get there with you

You always want to phras

efit.

mple 1: “Would you please pick that magazine I really like on you

e the reward as being in her interest… or being for mutual

ben

Exa

r way here so

that we can spend more time together?”

Example 2: She kissed you and is waiting to see how you respond (aka how you

reward) The following diagram shows what is going on in her mind.

- Sexual Tension

o Is defined as: the presence of controlled arousal state in the absence of overt verbal or

physical advances

o Talking about sex kills sexual tension… so that would not be con dered a “controlled

ke: urgent, ride, engage,

et, brushing, easing into, thrust, pleasure, desire,

ite,

o Us

whisper, breeze, swollen, finger, stroke, w

velvety, plunge, inside, tight, hard, satisfaction, buried inside, rub, tense, wrap around, exc

arouse, thick, anticipation, slipping in(to)… etc

Use SPR Kino to condition her to respond to your kino escalation.

You basically kino while not caring how she reacts. It creates a subconscious

conditioning that “you take it when you want it”

Ex: You kiss her passionately, she gets aroused, and you stop to do something else.

You later ma

cloth

you taking charge. When you decide you want it, she will accept it. “So I guess

are having sex now, right?”

arousal”

e metaphors and sensual language by incorporating words li

ke out with her, she gets aroused, you stop. You make out again, some

es fall off, and you stop one last time. After a while, she will be conditioned by

If you miscalibrate and give her exclusivity, you get low perceived value.

Ad anced Compliance

o Compliance is primordial in achieving SPR.

o Use these 2 advanced techniques:

Dirty Compliance : take something she would have done anyway to imply she did it for

you. On the subconscious level, the fact that she didn’t reject the assumption that

she did something for you implies that she did it for you anyway.

Example: You come in and see her house is clean

- “You didn’t have to <x> (clean the house) just for me!”

- <She answers> (No, no, no, it was already clean!)

- “I believe you, sweetie” <grin>

Virtual Compliance : means that you incorporate levels of compliance in your role

play. Most women will not reject the idea that they did something for you when you

take it into the imaginary.

Example: Vacation role

- “So ye

nice it was that you packed my s

Re d Calibration

es ribed in the previous page, you want to reverse the traditional view that a man would

a woman’s compliance with monetary / materialistic means. You want to reward he

If you calibrate it right and give her a simple compliment, you have more leeway to

play with.

ah, we’d get all excited just to get on our trip. I would remember how

uitcase for me.” Blah blah blah

war

o As d c

reward

instead

o Value Flu

with sexual means.

x : happens when the woman rejects your compliance request o

hat

r when your value

has no clear de

finition. This is an opportunity for you to define what t

er reward. Refer to the article

value is. You

determine or att

ribute the proper value / cost for h

ve or complete details.

mentioned

abo f

Dating Smart

A Few Simple Tips for Good Sex

Vin’s 3 rules of dating:

- C onvenient

- C ost (cheap)

- C onversation (because game is best conveyed through conversation)

Last Minute Reservations (LMR) should not occur if you did good Continuous Flow of Action or if you

managed to instill SPR.

Here are 2 simple LMR techniques:

- Prevent her objections by verbalizing them ahead of her

o “This is too soon. We shouldn’t do this” (yet you keep on continuing)

- Agree to her objections and keep going

o “You are right, this is wrong. But this feels sooooo good!” (this is similar to cutting bad

conversational threads)

The goal if you encounter LMR is to get to her pussy. You may skip kissing, or breast fondling to

get there. Most women will lose their inhibitions if you get down there (some women will have

sex without having you ever kiss them or touch their breasts):

o Finger in pussy

o Incidental pussy rubbing (Elbow rubbing pussy while hands are rubbing breasts)

The All-Important Logistics

Continuous Flow of Action describes that there should be no hesitation in leading the woman to

isolation. It should feel natural for the woman to go from point A to point B with you. As such, it is

important that you set up dates with the distance and time to get to the isolation location in mind.

To isolate, it is best to have an

- “Have you eve

- “Let’s get back to m

excuse for the woman to follow you:

r had ice wine? No? You have to try some” (take her to an intermediary place if

you are far from home. Maybe dinner?)

y place to watch xxx.” (You do not have to have xxx at home)

DEVI model of sex is described in the Sex Revolution Handbook if you buy it from

http://www.sexrevolutionblog.com/

Example of good logistics

No matter what techniques you use during sex, you should display:

- D ominance

o This relates to taking leadership when it comes to sex (ex: you put her hand on your cock

when she shows some hesitations, or you verbalize: “you are so wet, you must have been

thinking about getting fucked all night”)

- E motions

o Speak about your passions, and what turns you on.

- V ariety

o This includes variety in sex but also in conversational topics when you were on the date

- I m mersion

o The man needs to be focused on the woman both during conversation (refer back to the

f imagining

“You should check out

this comic stand-up

video I have”

Dinner or

other

interesting

place

Focus section on Day 1) and sex. Most men during sex have the bad habit o

having sex with someone else.

The DEVI model is well demonstrated in the Lay Report found here:

http://sexrevolutionblog.com/?p=166 . This c

during your conversational interactions with

oncept is based on the VAC model and can be applied

the woman to subconsciously convey that you are a good

lover.

“Hey, are you

hungry?”

y 1-2 hours before your sexual performance can increase how much ammo

ou can shoot. One of the VAC guys who tried it said he went from 3 pumps to 5.

Cheap Date

location / coffee

Squirting

: It is best to have something interesting in your room to display or to show. This can

be an excuse for the woman to go to your room.

One technique described during the workshop

st your chest, after you have relaxed her with whatever sexual techniques you use. Ins

and 4 th finger into her pu

hither” motion like a lawn mower. Do so for 15 seconds periods at a time. Let her rest (and do other

gs), do it again. Let her rest, and repeat until you hear a suction sound. Let her rest and repea

l you find yourself in a big puddle. Please remind her to relax a

involves the woman lying on her back with her knees

up again

ert

Once in the room, you should have organized mess that occupies any location that she could sit on

(desk chair… etc), which will allow her to naturally sit on your bed.

your 3 rd

ssy; push in and up against her lower abdomen. Rub in a “come

thin

Escalate from there. Have fun!

unti

nd breathe.

If logistics prohibit from going further, get her contact information and follow-up on it.

Supposedly, eating celer

Room logistics

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